silly thing we call love.

these few days, the way i think of things seemed to change and so does my judgements on people especially when it comes to being stupid in relationship.

let me define myself. before, i used to think that those who are willing to go through pain just for the sake of someone you're not certain will love you forever is sort of stupid. I also thought that when you love someone, you own them. I am truly the most foolish person in this world to not be able to see through those lovely feelings.

I began to redo my judgements when one night, i came to think of this;

you will know when you truly love someone when u learn to complete those that he/she doesn't have, liking the flaws and accepting them as how that person is, and to let go because what is yours will always be yours when you learn to trust your heart and that other person's.

I sometimes wonder how can one still be together when her other half is giving her painful days to live with. How can one not get over that person when the fact that he cheated on her or left her out of nothing. How one can stand being the other person in someone else's life.

The only thing that I can think of why these things are possible is the fact that when you learn to accept things as a whole, you learn to tolerate and give a second chance to others no matter how bad the mistake the other person did. you learn put aside your worries and follow where fate will lead you to.

I have been asking myself how can you leave someone when you learn to love other people more. I have friends who leave just like that when he/she found someone new. I would say it's a cruel thing to do. and i still think so. but, i did some rethink on this one certain thing. A good friend of mine once said, 'you can't help it when you love someone'. I replied to him 'u stupid, u should have avoided it from happening'. the real thing is, you can't. and I get it now. Your mind does not co-operate with your heart in this situation. I did judge those who involved in this before but now I beg an apology.

to be fair to everyone is impossible. to be fair to those you care so much is harder sometimes. there are times you have to put aside what you think is best to satisfy those around you, and start thinking of how to be fair to yourself too.

to those who cried their heart out for losing someone they really cherished, I couldn't blame them even if they deserve someone better after all the sacrifices made. tears is the first step to recovery.

I have to say this time, this entry took me longer to put into words of how i think of things. and i still have a few says which I cannot deliver for the time being.

the say, to love is not to own, i fully understand it now.

p/s: I may have made a few hearts torn by writing this entry and expressing my harsh opinions, as i said before i am a mere human. you can accept what i wrote and you're free to argue. it's just from one person point of view.